The Wife As “Helper” of the Husband

Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him’” (Gen. 2:18, ESV)

Some men have misunderstood the word, “helper.” They have treated their wives as, literally, helpers. However, that is not what the word means in the context of Genesis 2. In the context of Genesis 2, Eve, the helper, does not act as a servant or maid to Adam. Adam did not treat her like the animals that worked for him.

Rather, Eve is a helper to Adam, in the sense that she is the answer to the loneliness of Adam. Adam’s loneliness is not good. Then God created Eve. Eve, then, fills up the vacuum of Adam’s loneliness. In other words, Eve will help Adam, in that she will complete what is lacking in Adam.[1]

Dandin, remember this—April will complete what is lacking in you.

Now God said that he will make “a helper fit for him.” This helper of Adam shall be “suitable for him.” The Hebrew construction, keneged, literally reads, “like what is in front of him” (BDB) or “as that which corresponds to him.” (TWOT). Thus, Eve is “fit” or “suitable” for Adam, in the sense that Eve shall correspond to Adam.

The woman shall be like him, corresponding to him. She shall be equal to Adam bodily. Yet her bodily features shall correspond to him. She shall be equal as a person to Adam. She shall bear the same image of God of Adam.

Dandin, April shall correspond to you. She does not only complete you. She corresponds to you. She bares the image of God. She is equal to you. She matches you.

Gary Bruland tells of the report of Robert and Jeanette Lauer in the journal, Psychology Today. They write about long-term satisfaction in marriage. They say that couples in lasting marriages know each other. They like each other. They are best friends. They talk to each other. They do things together.[2]

Dandin and April, you are made equally for each other. Know each other. Like each other. Share life together. Do things together. Become the best of friends. That’s what God wants you to do.

[1] Kenneth A. Matthews, Genesis 1-11:26 (NAC; ed. E. Ray Clendenen; Nashville: Broadman & Holman, 1996), 214.

[2] Lauer, Jeanette and Lauer, Robert. “Marriages Made to Last,” Psychology Today, 19(6), 24; in Bruland, “Marriage,” Online:


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