I heard about a woman who was diagnosed with a serious heart condition. Her doctor told her she cannot bear a baby. When her boyfriend, who was a pastor, heard about it, he left her. She was devastated.
Today, she has four children and still living. Her ex-boyfriend, the pastor, is now dead.
Is that what love is? You love her only for what you can get from her? You love her for her usefulness? What if she becomes useless to you?
But that is the point of marriage. The point of marriage is to love each other unconditionally, so as to keep the covenant.
The time will come when he no longer arouses you. The time will come when she no longer attracts you. The time will come when he or she offends you. But then you will love each other, not because she serves your needs, but because you love her unconditionally, so as to keep the covenant.
Let me close by sharing with you these profound words of Dietrich Bonhoeffer. He wrote this marriage sermon for his niece and her husband in a prison cell in 1943 in Nazi Germany.
In a word, live together in the forgiveness of your sins, for without it no human fellowship, least of all a marriage, can survive. Don’t insist on your rights, don’t blame each other, don’t judge or condemn each other, don’t fault with each other, but accept each other as you are, and forgive each other every day from the bottom of your hearts.”
Let us pray.
 Lutheran Weddings, “A wedding sermon by Dietrich Bonhoeffer.” Cited January 8, 2013. Online: http://lutheranweddings.blogspot.com/2007/10/wedding-sermon-by-dietrich-bonhoeffer.html